How social media is destroying marriage
General Discussion,

American sociologists have found that about 60% of married couples who filed for divorce blame social networks for a failed marriage. They give a disappointing forecast - in the future, the Internet may become the main reason for the separation of spouses.

According to scientists, the time spent on social networks is inversely proportional to the number of happy emotions that a person brings with his family life. People who spend too much time on the Internet and spend little time with their spouses also tend to suffer from mood swings and dissatisfaction with life.

How social media can ruin a marriage

Constant comparison of a partner with others. Scrolling through the news feed on social networks, you can catch yourself feeling that all the people there are beautiful, happy, and successful. We see processed, vivid photographs of their busy life, women are always beautiful and have slender figures, men are clean-shaven and drive expensive cars. Looking at this, the partner may begin to compare the spouse with a tanned model, and sooner or later this will lead to constant criticism and claims against her.

Secret correspondence. Psychologists have found that even innocent online communication can create an emotional attachment between people. The spouse (or spouse) begins to hide his correspondence, makes secrets, and puts passwords on his gadgets. If a person has a pen pal friend of the opposite sex on the Internet, then the frequent desire to “sit on the phone”, be alone, or leave the room will give him away.

Cheating partner. Regular communication on the Internet can grow into something more. One of the partners may feel tenderness and interest in the other; he will want to transfer the virtual novel to the real world. A spouse can invite his passion for a date, appear at homeless often and hide correspondence on the Internet.

Dating websites. It's no secret that dating sites imply communication between a man and a woman, which does not always end with correspondence and innocent flirting. This type of social network, as a rule, does not imply finding a partner for a long romance; usually, people are looking for a short affair there. Just getting to know each other on a social network is one thing, but purposefully looking for a new partner on dating sites is another.

The online interlocutor is better than the real one. Quite a few people note that in correspondence they can say what they are afraid to talk about in real life. Judgment from online friends is easier to hide and much easier to deal with. It is for this reason that the spouse can tell more to virtual acquaintances than to the other half. This is one of the signs of distrust, embarrassment, and unwillingness to share your problems with a loved one.

Constant attention to social networks. Social networks can captivate a spouse much more than real communication with family members and friends. They are full of vivid pictures and spectacular photographs, which are sometimes difficult to tear yourself away from. This can captivate a partner so that reality seems too boring and monotonous, and communication with loved ones cannot give enough positive emotions.

Family neglect. Psychologists say that the desire to spend more time interacting with virtual interlocutors affects the spouse's desire to pay attention to his family. He wants to escape from the routine, look at pictures of beautiful girls or hot countries. The partner gets aesthetic pleasure from this and wants to get away from everyday problems.

How to avoid social media divide

To distract your partner from communicating on the Internet, you can show him that real life can be much more exciting than correspondence. You can invite your spouse to go on a trip to be alone and chat more. If this is not possible, then suggest watching an interesting movie or visiting some new places: unusual exhibitions or quests.

One option is to talk openly and say that you love your spouse and you want to spend more time with him. Ask him to agree on how much time each of you will spend on the Internet, and how much together. You just need to remember that spending time together should cause some positive emotions that can draw the spouse's attention back to family life.

Social networks can affect family relationships, but if there are harmony and love between spouses, then no amount of Internet correspondence can destroy it. It is necessary to communicate more, spend time together, and also respect each other, and then social networks will not be able to influence a strong union.